By Zareh ‘Z’ Zurabyan
A promise letter to future life written in the blog of Zareh Zurabyan.
Hello my future wife.
Whether you are reading this before you meet me, or will stumble upon it afterward, I want you to know a few things. The reason why I am writing this today is because I can’t stop thinking about you, I can’t stop myself from imagining how happy we will be. Something is missing without you even though we haven’t met yet. Let this letter be a promise that I will do my best to be the man I want to be for you.
I may not yet know the essence of the difficulties that comes with a lifetime commitment, but I have enough relationship experience to know what I want, and how I picture my life with the person I will commit to for life – you. Those around me act as a continual source of education and inspiration to know how I want our relationship to be. So here and today, I vow to try my best to do the things that follow in this letter throughout our life together.
I promise to do my best to make you beam daily — count on many surprises. Your smile will be my priority. I get weak knees when anybody smiles; imagine the efforts I will make to be the source of yours… I just pooped myself… twice… haaaa. You can be sure that over the years I will stay my goofy self as I always have been.
I promise I will always look at you with the same adoration as I will the moment I realize you are something special.
I promise to try to instigate the same sparkle in your eyes I see when you get surprised, inspired, motivated; or when you are about to lean in to kiss me.
I promise to hold your hand when we’re 80 years old with the same liveliness that I will when I cross that line to hold yours for the first time. I vow to never let the excitement of dating me die down – surprising you with location, the reason, or the activity itself.
I promise to rouse pondering in you as to where we’re going to go next — in life, over the weekend with an adventure, tonight or tomorrow with a quiet night on the back porch with a glass of wine and conversation that might be silent.
I promise to do my best to always interest you – because I will keep reinventing myself, gaining new hobbies, new knowledge, and new interests to keep you – and myself — entertained. I promise to have new stories to share with you, and maybe I’ll retell the best ones again if you insist :); our friendship will continue to grow over the years.
I vow to challenge you to challenge yourself for the better; to make you think differently. I promise to try to feed off of your illuminating energy that will inspire me to do the same with myself. I will do my best to ensure that the thought “I am bored” never crosses your mind.
Even in grief and darkness, I promise to show you the different shades of the dark, and to help you find the tiny rays of light that are always there if you seek them; the positive sides of the worst — after all, there’s always worse than worst, better than best; everything is relative.
I promise to kiss you throughout our life together with the same stimulated hesitation as I will the first time I dare to land my lips on yours. You will always feel the passion, the spark that everyone says always fades – it won’t with us. When we kiss, I want it to slow down time – that moment where cars and buildings disappear, no man-made objects in the area, no technology, no streets, no telephone poles, just me and you engulfed in nature and our feelings.
I promise to keep our romance constantly inflamed. I promise to caress your skin’s smoothness while we’re young, and fondly run my hands over your elegant wrinkles that speak of years of adventure when we’re older.
I promise to play the games you like to play. I will be the ‘over-macho’ man, and the weak man in need of your strength. Best believe that I promise to initiate harmless fights, tease you, and make you senselessly angry – my intention only being to make passionate love to you when we make up. I promise to make love to you not like the first time, but to make each time feel special, different, exciting; to leave you wondering what the hell just hit you… yeah, it was me. I promise to make love whenever, however – I will never hide my passion for your love.
I promise to do my best to remain physically attractive for you, and I will do my best to be healthy in order to keep up with our children and grandchildren – somebody has got to teach them Muay Thai kickboxing. I’ll train you too, I want you to know how to fight and defend yourself, just don’t use it against me.
I promise to help you to be healthy, physically and mentally. I will cook for us. I will clean for us. Expect the meanest breakfasts – literally the best: traditional Armenian tomato and pepper omelet, followed by fruit salad with… well, I can’t give all the secrets out.
I promise to strive to be a role model for our children. I want both you and them to see me as a source of motivation. I want to inspire them in the same way that my father inspires me. I promise to do my best to love your family as you love them and to be by their side as much as I am by yours.
I promise to always listen to you – when you simply just want to be heard, when you want someone to vent to about something that frustrated you during your day, or when you want advice. I will listen to you especially when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with anybody else, and to the things you try to tell me when you’re not even speaking: I promise to always listen.
During our life together, I promise to make sure that you feel as though you are the center of the household – because I know you will be, and I will always try to show my appreciation for you because of that. Being the man of the house is nothing without the woman.
I promise to never let my guard down in taking care of us, because I know you won’t be the type of person to be satisfied with the bare minimum.
I promise to always maintain the integrity of you as an individual, the individual that will not have been a part of me before I met you, but will be then become part of a unit: a hybrid, the best of two entities, where we take on the world together.
I promise to do everything that I can for you without taking away from your independence physically, intellectually, or emotionally.
I promise to create family traditions, and to make sure that your legacy lives forever through our children.
I promise to encapsulate the moment when I realize that I am in the most magnetic, amorous and erotic love with you – and to not let that feeling dissipate to the best of my ability; to relive it with you constantly, always.
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