The couple, who live in Greenville and regularly post content about their married life, said in the video: “I’m 26, he’s 60, and these are our non-negotiable rules in an age-gap relationship,” while sitting on the terrace of their lakeside home.

Their first rule is daily prayer together. According to them, it helps maintain emotional connection and gratitude in their relationship.

“We pray together every single night. It’s the last thing we do before bed. Regardless of religion, it’s important to intentionally express gratitude and share that moment together,” they explained.

The second rule sparked even more debate — they do not drink alcohol separately. Kevin Greagen said: “There is vulnerability in alcohol, and I don’t want to be in that state without my partner present.”

He added that this was a mutual decision: “This is not control. We didn’t impose it on each other. We simply chose to live this way.”

Their third rule is to “serve each other even during conflict.” According to Kevin, the idea is to maintain respect even during arguments: “The disagreement can exist, but it should not affect kindness and care.”

He added: “If someone gives you a head massage even while they’re upset with you, you know you are still loved.”

The fourth rule is not “keeping score” in the relationship. Gracen Greagen said: “My father used to say that couples shouldn’t split everything 50/50. Each person should give 100%.”

Kevin supported this idea, saying: “The worst thing is keeping a list of what someone did wrong. That destroys relationships. You have to let it go.”

However, online reactions were mixed. Many users criticized the rules as overly strict and controlling, especially the restriction on drinking separately. One commenter wrote: “This sounds like a lack of self-control and an attempt to control your partner.”

Others said the rules felt “forced” rather than a natural part of a relationship.

At the same time, relationship expert Beck Thompson said the rules themselves are not necessarily problematic. She stated: “Praying together, kindness during conflict, and not keeping score are things I often recommend to my clients.”

However, she added that the issue may lie in how they are framed: “The moment you call them ‘non-negotiable rules,’ it starts to sound like a contract rather than a relationship.”

She also noted that the alcohol rule is the most controversial: “When a couple feels the need to defend it publicly in advance, it can suggest underlying insecurity.”

The couple, however, remains unfazed by criticism, saying their lifestyle is not for everyone. Gracen Greagen said: “People hear the word ‘rules’ and think control. We see clarity and alignment. It works for us, and that’s enough.”