Thanks to Hollywood movies and chilling media headlines, the word "psychopath" instantly conjures up images of crime scenes, brutal killers, and people with an entirely dead-eyed stare. Anyone familiar with Patrick Bateman from American Psycho has a general idea of this trope.
However, a leading expert told The Post that in real life, psychopaths are far more likely to be armed with personal charm, making them dangerous in a completely different way.
"People tend to think that all psychopaths are violent," explains Leanne ten Brinke, an associate professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia (Okanagan) and author of the book Poisonous People. "While psychopathy is indeed a risk factor for violence, violence itself is not considered a defining characteristic of the condition."
According to ten Brinke, by limiting our understanding of psychopaths to violent criminals, we overlook the manipulative, callous, impulsive, and antisocial behaviors that can destroy our relationships and cause deep psychological trauma.
Contrary to cultural stereotypes, most psychopaths don’t carry a knife in their pocket—they carry charisma. They are confident, charming, and highly socially adapted. To mask their lack of empathy, a psychopath develops superficial charm and manipulation skills to appear as the perfect partner, boss, or job candidate. This also explains recent studies showing that individuals with psychopathic traits are incredibly successful on dating apps.
Psychopathy, along with sadism, narcissism, and Machiavellianism, is part of the so-called "Dark Tetrad" of personality traits. Despite their differences, they share two core characteristics: emotional callousness and a propensity for manipulation.
Leanne ten Brinke emphasizes that psychopathy manifests in enduring patterns that can be traced over years and across various life contexts. "Anyone can lie or act selfishly once in a while. But people with a psychopathic personality structure do this constantly, without experiencing the slightest remorse, taking responsibility, or even attempting to change. Track the system," the expert advises.
While diagnoses should be made exclusively by licensed professionals, ten Brinke highlighted key markers that should put you on alert:
Conflict of Interest: Observe how a person behaves when your goals, needs, or well-being clash with their desires. Do they resort to manipulation, lying, gaslighting, blame-shifting, and striving to "win" at all costs?
Rule-Breaking: Psychopaths regularly violate laws, job descriptions, unwritten social norms, and the personal boundaries of those around them.
Eerie Coolness (Biological Marker): Absolute emotional calmness in an objectively frightening or stressful situation is one of the clearest biological indicators. In most people, stress alters the voice, accelerates the heart rate, and causes sweating. In psychopaths, this "internal alarm button" doesn't work—their bodies do not react to fear or the threat of punishment; they are virtually impossible to catch off guard or frighten.
Lack of Pupil Response: Another physiological cue is that their pupils do not dilate when viewing shocking or terrifying images.
The promiscuity often associated with psychopathy is explained by the expert as an evolutionary "fast life strategy."
"While most people are wired for cooperation, honesty, generosity, and investing resources into long-term relationships, psychopaths choose the opposite path. Their strategy is riskier, focusing on immediate gratification and short-term connections," says ten Brinke.
This strategy works precisely because it is an anomaly. If there were too many psychopaths, society would lose trust, and deceiving people would become much harder. Fortunately, in its clinical form, psychopathy is rare—the expert estimates it affects only about 1% of the population.
To spot a "poisonous" personality, Leanne ten Brinke recommends using the "transcript test" method: "Forget about the pleasant emotions you felt during the interaction, and focus exclusively on the dry facts: specific words, statements, and promises. If you have a recording of the conversation, transcribe it into text. You'll be surprised by how vague, contradictory, or completely meaningless the person's statements turn out to be, even though you left the meeting completely captivated by them."
If the text of the conversation radically contradicts your pleasant impression of it, there is a high probability that you were just sold a dose of superficial charm. In such situations, the expert also advises involving third parties: groups of people are much more effective at detecting deception than individuals.
Follow NEWS.am STYLE on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram
16:29, September 9
The Boy Who Looks Like Boris Johnson: Why Steal Renoir at All?15:49, September 9
Labubu Meets LVMH: Pop Mart Opens Flagship Store in Paris15:22, September 9
Where Has Lady Gaga Gone? Singer’s Disappearance Sparks Secret Wedding Rumors14:37, September 9
Current “Miss Austria” Dies Suddenly at 2214:10, September 9
Cardi B Shows Off Her $15,000 Diamond Butt Piercing13:22, September 9
“No Kissing”: Billy Baldwin Vows Never to Work With Sharon Stone Again12:38, September 9
A Joke That Went Too Far: Gwyneth Paltrow Reveals How Her Viral “Vagina-Scented” Candle Came to Be12:17, September 9
Nicolas Cage’s $10.5 Million Luxury Malibu Mansion Nearly Swallowed by Giant Sinkhole11:51, September 9
Trump’s Generous Gifts to Young Female Aides: Each Received $45,00011:36, September 9
Elon Musk Wanted Children “Before the Civil War” and Offered $40 Million for Silence: Shocking Claims by His Former Partner10:43, September 9
Deep Plunges, Sheer Looks and Barely Any Fabric: Kim Kardashian Shares Archive of Revealing Fittings23:01, September 8
A year aboard a luxury liner: £56,000 cruise spans the globe from Alaska to Zanzibar